Appendix 4 – Biblical Wedding Vows

I will type, verbatim, the wedding vows last used at the church I now attend. I’m rejoicing, and I invite you to join me.

Alex and Sarah – I want to call to your attention, two aspects of the relationship between Christ and His Church that is to be emulated in your marriage.

  1. The Love of the Bridegroom

ALEX, your primary responsibility, with Sarah, will be to love her in the same way that Christ loves His bride the Church.

No man has ever loved his wife, like Christ loves the church!

However, this is still the model of love that God holds up as the standard for husbands to follow.

As Christ’s love for His Church was not conditional on her performance, so your commitment to Sarah is not to be based on her performance. Your love is to be unconditional, and is to be expressed by cherishing her, protecting her, providing for her, and sacrificially leading her.

Are you willing to do this? (Yes, I am.)

  1. The Response of the Bride

SARAH, your primary responsibility, with Alex, will be to unconditionally and sacrificially love him. The primary way you are to show this love is to “be subject” to Alex. The word “subject’ literally means to “arrange under.”

Just as every member of Christ’s Church is to arrange their lives under the headship of Christ, so you are to arrange the affairs of your life under the headship of your husband.

Are you willing to do this? (Yes, I am)

For both of you, there will be plenty of questions and specifics to work through, as to how your marriage will best honor God and show love to one another. In general, if you keep in mind, and strive to imitate the picture of Christ and His bride, you will have a God-honoring and successful marriage.

PUBLIC VOWS

PASTOR

Will you now face each other, and join hands please?

ALEX, do you take Sarah to be your wedded wife, to live together in pure love, according to God’s Word? Will you continually seek to love her, comfort her, honor and cherish her, even as you care for your own body? Will you be committed to lead her spiritually, and to set as your goal in life, to please both the Lord and her, in all things? Will you dwell with her with understanding, giving honor to her as your wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as you are heirs together of the grace of life? And forsaking all others, will you keep yourself only for her, as long as you both shall live? (Yes, I will)

Please repeat after me:

I Alex, take you, Sarah, as my wedded wife.

I will perform these vows from this day forward…

for better or for worse,…

for richer or for poorer,…

in sickness and in health,…

till death us depart.

Sarah, do you take Alex to be your wedded husband, to live together in pure love, according to God’s Word? Will you continually seek to love him, comfort him, honor and obey him, and be subject to him in everything, just as the Church is subject to Christ? Will you be committed to encourage him, be patient with him, and to set as your goal in life, to please both the Lord and him, in all things? Will you be considerate of his needs and care for him, adorning yourself with a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God? And forsaking all others, will you keep yourself only for him, as long as you both shall live? (Yes, I will.)

Please repeat after me:

I Sarah, take you, Alex, to be my wedded husband

I will perform these vows from this day forward,…

for better or for worse,…

for richer or for poorer,…

in sickness and in health,…

till death us depart.

The Lord always has a remnant; the above wedding vows are the rare exception.